I’m 36, and while my love life has been varied and interesting, over the last few years I’ve started to want to settle down. I know it doesn’t happen overnight. But recently it’s been weighing on me more and more. I reminisce about past relationships. I feel hopeless about meeting someone in the future who shares my values.
On the one hand you hear things like “happiness comes from within”, but on the other we are social animals and 99% of us want to feel loved and to love.
I definitely recognise this. I’m a problem solver by nature. So as soon as a thought would pop up that I felt that I couldn’t handle, I just pushed it away.
But of course, these thoughts didn’t resolve themselves so they just stayed there.
It’s still not easy for me, but now when I have such a feeling, I just let it free. Most likely it won’t get solved, some things just can’t, but I get used to them, find a place for them, and in some rare cases even make it my strength.