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      You are underestimating christo-fascists and their desire for ultra traditional gender roles.

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      Thinking for herself is a requirement in the industrialized world, since adulting is a subset. Maybe there’s a farm that raises gentle ladies-in-waiting with only domestic skills the way we train service dogs to help disabled people, but such women are not found in general society.

      Also, not thinking for herself makes her unemployable in a society where all adults are required to earn a living (which often takes more than one full-time job). So this requirement implies the guy is rich enough to afford a family on one income.

      In short, like the 1950s man, he’s not looking for a date or a wife. He’s looking for a household appliance. Kenmore will sort him out.

      As for the rest of us losers working class guys, real women who think for them selves and can adult are an asset and a keeper. Heck, if they can think for us too, sometimes, that’s a bonus.

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    “Can think for herself”.

    Dude really wants to do the “Where do you want to go eat?” “I dunno, where do you want to go eat?” vicious cycle?

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    I’m seriously on the fence with this one. A couple of points make it really difficult for it to not to be satire, but I’ve met guys who would unironically think of “can think for herself” as a malus - but they wouldn’t admit it out loud. Now, can there be some kind of cave creature so pulled apart from civilized life that they would think this and post it?

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      I’m pretty sure this guy does want a woman who can think for herself. Otherwise he’s gonna have to tell her how and when to clean the house, plan and cook meals, take care of their kids, and manage the household…etc. He’s gunning for the Monkey’s Paw version of a tradwife.

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    Vaping would be a deal breaker for me. Besides being douchy, I just plain don’t like it, just how I hate smoking. Piercings I probably wouldn’t like outa taste, but someone who can think for themselves is a must otherwise I’d get bored quickly. Not being able to cook would be somewhat problematic as I can’t cook well either, soooo…

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      The type of person that wants someone that can’t think for them selves…isn’t really that high on the mental flag pole of life.

      But the saying is code for a bunch of stuff, I really doubt that they mean they are searching for someone with severe brain damage and has trouble performing even the basic functions of life.

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        Yeah that just means “someone who asks her husband permission to do most things that aren’t chores like it’s the handmaiden’s tale”

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    This guy is a troll, which does not rule out also being a sexist bigot.

    In any joke there’s a part you believe and a part you don’t.

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        Maybe? There is a large portion of christo-fascists who actually believe much of that. I am certainly not so naive that I am ruling out satire, but I would also be remiss not to consider that it’s actually real and posted by an outright garbage human.

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    Lots of these are on my list of wants in a partner. Give me a tatt’d up sailor mouthed gym rat any day of the week. Driver’s license optional.

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      “Over 18”

      … my first thought when I read “never dated a woman” was “yeah, because these are mostly the basic requirements for an adult women. Sicko obviously likes them young”

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      Seemed realistic enough at first but then “thinks for herself” and “been to more than 3 countries” puts this obviously in satire land.

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    This person needs to hire a cook and get a sex doll. Actually scratch that, door dash. He’s way too fucked to interact with other humans. I feel bad for anyone in his life.