The fact that there is a snack that you warm on a cup of coffee but don’t dip in it (so as not to change the texture of either) is one of the most Dutch things I’ve ever heard of lol.

I’m partial to biscotti myself but I’ll admit a good stroopwafel is nice.

The first time I ever heard of this was in the game Dinkum. That was when I discovered Australians apparently say “hundreds and thousands” to refer to what we call sprinkles. I appreciate most of our little differences but that one puzzles me.

Most days the kids are such beautiful creatures. They are learning, experimenting, cuddling, playing games with me… I wish I got to see more of them but I’m in office 5 days a week with a long commute, and we’re all feeling it.

But every once in a a while there is the day where they smear an entire dresser with zinc cream and that shit takes ages to wash off. Or they piss on you the moment you remove them from the bath. Or they spend an hour fighting you about going to bed so you just throw them into their bedroom and use your body to block their door until they get too tired from banging it and screaming and pass out; really started to appreciate my Steam Deck after that.

You remember these events well because they don’t happen often. You don’t remember every time you cuddled watching a movie, worked on a project together, made food together, or felt proud of them, because that’s pretty much every day.

I will add the caveat that this is for “normal” kids. I used to volunteer for a few groups for seriously disabled children and you didn’t see too many couples at those events… Usually one parent wants to keep the child while the other says they cannot effectively raise them, and you can guess how that goes. Having spent a lot of time with those kids and seeing the damage families suffer because of it, I do not suggest taking on the challenge of serious disability unless you are able to secure substantial material assistance; it’s far lonelier and harder than you can imagine.

That really is not ok, sorry bro. This happened to a friend of mine too, and I saw what that did to him. It’s so much worse than people realize. He nearly got kicked out of school over it even.

What saved him was the same thing that saved you: she was stupid enough to make a pattern out of the behaviour. That said it didn’t make it all better, because he no longer trusted the people who abandoned him. The social dynamics of that group never recovered.

One rejection in college had me pegged as a creep to the point many of my own friends stopped talking to me. All I did was ask someone to get some tea once but I guess I didn’t do the mating dance right or something idk.

Was a pretty powerful lesson in seeing how people will believe what they want to believe. I guess it’s the same for many of the “creeps” and “sluts” out there.

I don’t understand what you’re failing to grasp. You see what you’re allowed to see. They are signal boosting shit heads while suppressing everyone else. If your message begins to spread, they will just pull the platform out from under your feet.

How do you propose to win on billionaire-owned social media when they can just kick your legs out at will the moment you stand too tall for their good? Look at all the Reddit protests that amounted to nothing besides getting moderators booted from their subs, they’re a perfect example of this.

“Social media” is not society; it’s a series of platforms built by billionaires for the purpose of control.

There’s some truth to that but the lack of algorithmic manipulation will make it easier to deal with. Plus you just have more options here on Lemmy to deal with it. Most instance operators have shown a willingness to restrict or even defederate from other instances when they are consistently shit to deal with.

Way I see it there are two productive paths to take here:

1. Start trying to convince women that privacy does in fact matter. Use examples like the menstruation tracking apps potentially being used to identify abortions to illustrate this point.
2. Try to relate to the men here on Lemmy and find a way to cooperate. You’ve got a largely fresh population of men here who don’t actually hate women, but have spent years in education being told they are dangerous rapists waiting to happen, or were treated as defective women by their teachers. They need good male role models and women who will treat them with respect, so that they can climb out of the pit without leaving the better parts of themselves behind.

An utterly unproductive use of your time would be trying to fight misogyny on oligarch-owned platforms. You will never win because they find this content useful, as it divides workers and wastes their time and social energy. Just get out, and help others do it too.

Well someone has to be first to switch platforms.

This isn’t a platform problem

It is though. You think the spreading of this content is an accident? They could change the algorithm tomorrow and it would disappear, but they won’t because this division is useful to them.

“Stop using social media” is literally the only real solution because oligarchs will never again risk letting us actually connect with each other. You stay on “social” media and you will just be getting run in circles by engagement algorithms and bots.

You cannot save Facebook, Instagram, X, or Reddit because their owners will not allow you to.

You’re not going to save Instagram. The owners do not want you to save it and you do not control it. It was a lost cause before you even knew there was a problem.

Some systemic problems cannot be solved from inside the system.

Mudrunner. Never did play these games, it’s pretty neat. Roadcraft hard mode is looking pretty appealing now.

You need to know the words to properly wake the machine spirit

Evangelicals and Zionists are death cultists who want to end mankind to bring about the conditions of their salvation.

They are dangerously stupid.

Women often have to trade career progression for motherhood. That’s a big ask considering the decades we’ve spent letting neoliberals devalue motherhood and labour in and out of the home.

~20 years ago my wife was mocked at university for wanting to have children. It hasn’t improved much since.

Name something you care about. Now be honest: do you scroll past everything that spreads misinformation about that thing?

Investors have very big brains and are never wrong, so when a company drops staff they say it’s good to see the company losing dead weight.

Us stupid small-brained normies see a company struggling to have an original idea shaving staff to stay afloat and say “that doesn’t look good”.

Then the big-brain investor loses money and posts on social media about how you can’t win them all. The joke is that us normies also lost money; the investor didnt lose their money, they lost yours, because they were managing your pension fund.

I can’t speak for rekabis but my wife has agreed with everything rekabis said, as some of her own friends and many coworkers are exactly like this.

As for my own experience: back when Facebook was still “the Facebook”, I was in a Human Sexuality class in college. The prof split up the men and women and then had each side list what they want in a partner to illustrate that men and women have different values, and I was utterly disgusted by both sides.

Men: I want a woman with little sexual experience who will be obedient and faithful (translated: doting kissless virgin who will suck me off whenever I want, and never talk to other men)

Women: I want an independent man who can take me places, help me get what I need, and who listens (translated: a man who lives on his own, owns a car, will buy me things, and who will not challenge my braindead assumptions about life as a man)

I was listening to both sides construct their ideal person and then realize they couldn’t say what they actually wanted to say, so they reworded it, hence the translations. That’s the day I decided I would go find an intelligent woman who actually wants to touch grass and start a family. ~15 years later I have never been more glad I made that call because it does not appear that things improved at all.