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Cake day: November 21st, 2025

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  • I have friend dynamics that are the same way. Both sides do the same thing, dropping stuff for a while, weeks or months, and picking back up when energy returns, or there’s something to share. A burst of connection that picks up exactly where we left off, regardless how long it’s been. I wouldn’t be friends with people who aren’t ok with this, because it just wouldn’t last that long. I don’t have anything worth saying a lot of the time, and it feels weird to try to find something to say anyway just to stay in contact, so meh. No thanks.

    As with the seasons, there is a natural cycle to such things, and as long as everyone involved is confident the cycle will repeat as it has always done, there’s no need to fear or resent the cold winters. :)


  • Also face blind - I use voice as primary clue, not just pitch but intonation and vocalization patterns. I’m a big language nerd and a natural mimic, so vocal qualities stick out nicely for me and are often the only clue I need. After that I keep a list, basically, of feature descriptions that “are” a person, because oh joy, I also am aphantasic and can’t just pull up some reference image, even if individual features (possibly somewhat related in my case)

    I get a LOT of false positive hits on sight alone, but with vocal cues I’m rarely mistaken.

    Going missing in crowds because I don’t remember/know what the person is supposed to be wearing so I can’t recognize them on sight is the worst, and I’m short so I only see a few options at a time in a sea of people. It’s super un-fun. Fortunately by now everyone I know is fully aware that I don’t actually recognize them most of the time, and so they go looking for me.

    The worst for me is when I see someone who flags all the descriptor traits for a person I haven’t seen in a while, and I don’t know if I actually know them or just have that feeling, so I feel compelled to talk to them to sort out why they feel familiar. It happens kinda a lot, especially with women who resemble my late mother, which is a uniquely uncomfortable feeling, so I don’t actually talk to those people knowing I’m probably wrong, but man that compulsion…




  • Sure, if my active drives died after this swap, and I had to restore from the old, now backup, drive, I’d be back at the operational state I was at the time of the backup.

    That tracks.

    It still doesn’t run anything tho. It’s just a drive. It doesn’t house an os or anything, just files that aren’t restricted in any way.






  • I’d like a mix of elf and dwarf with a splash of goblin, please.

    I want the systems management with a huge complicated story, but also lots of collectibles around the world for no fucking reason other than to give my ADHD something to do when “build more shit and try to find the end of that fucking wire” are not engaging.

    So far I’ve got oxygen not included and rimworld, I tried dwarf fortress but it’s really not my bag and I’m not sure why. I haven’t tried factorio or satisfactory because they look a bit too complicated to fully engage me (tho I’ve been watching game it out and honestly, as a result I’m trying to embrace the chaos). I’m sure I’d like them if I gave them a try, maybe. Then again I mod the shit out of my games to add more complexity to them so…

    But is there a good mix of elf and dwarf games?



  • Depends if you can stand to wear a wool turtleneck (over another shirt that keeps the wool only touching your neck).

    I can’t stand any turtleneck, personally, for exactly the same reason I can’t do tags. It’s there touching me, and it feels wrong but won’t go away, and the wrongness bothers me. Even super fluffy soft fabrics are wrong on my neck.




  • I -can- do it, technically, with many mistakes and very slow, because it was forced on me in high school (around 2001), well after I’d refined my own typing style from chat rooms and instant messengers. I did it for that class, hated every second, and would go home to type the way I normally do, rather than practice it.

    I type extremely fast despite using a mostly-sight-based, modified 2-3 finger hunt-peck. (As in one hand usually only uses two fingers, one uses three). I keep up with fast touch typers, around 90-95wpm, except when copying text verbatim (something I’ve never actually needed to do for any reason other than typing tests) so I have zero motivation to change what I do.