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  • It’s interesting how you say this because I serve MAGAs. I’m a bartender in small town Merica.

    They’re naturally good people. They care. But if politics enter into the conversation, the narrative changes.

    Many of them, when brouched with a hypothetical/reasonable question, such as, “Don’t you find it interesting that if you speak online with people of other nations, they all find us shameful?” they say fuck them, 'Merica! We’d fuck them up anyway, if it came down to it.

    They want to get a rise out of the “libtards”. I’ve witnessed them preening and delighted out of the reaction they insight.

    Once I steer the conversation, so I don’t shoot my own damned self, they start complaining about prices in the same sentence they hope the tariffs will sink in and help them recover their losses.

    We are a nation being forced fed our thoughts, opinions, and ideals. Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain



  • So I’m an American. I’m not understanding when this moment of silence was supposed to happen. Usually an event or a game we care about, this might happen for someone truly influential. I was out of the know so I went to learn.

    What the MEP(whatever tf they are) was asking, is that the European Parliament take a minute of silence during their Plenary.

    A plenary session or plenum is a session of a conference or deliberative assembly in which all parties or members are present. Such a session may include a broad range of content, from keynotes to panel discussions, and is not necessarily related to a specific style of presentation or deliberation.

    Would US congress or senate take a moment of silence for a social influencer on either side of the spectrum for any other nation?

    That is a rhetorical question. Nice try, but this is only “news” on social media where nobody would have known or cared about it if someone didn’t post about it.

    Our own government won’t even do it. Football season is starting fresh and they didn’t do it. Why the fuck would another nation give a shit???


  • My boyfriend said he thought about me when we listen to Saturday Night by the Misfits. I’m like… do you want to murder me?..

    The lyrics always sounded very murdery to me. I think they did an amazing job of making it sound romantic but bf read through the lyrics after that and hugged me when I got home and said he definitely didn’t want to murder me.

    Edit: Ok this one is purely personal but I just got done with work and it came out on the playlist, Achilles Come Down by Gangs of Youth.

    I learned this song from my daughter. I let her control the music when we’d drive to school and back but I immediately loved this song because unlike me, she has an amazing voice. This is one I only ever heard underneath her crystalline soprano while she sang along.

    It was always so beautiful that I didn’t focus on the song so much as her. She made a haunting, sad song a beautiful, pleasant memory for me because now she’s had her license for a while, she’s doing her thing being an ambitious senior. I don’t get to listen to her sing anymore between my work and her school/social schedule.

    I miss the days when I stayed up after a 12 hour shift to take her to school because I miss listening to her sing. I brain was fuzzy and that morning sun seared my eyeballs but I cherish every morning now because I don’t have many left. I acutally miss everything about my kids needing me now that one has been independent for quite a few years and the other two are almost independent. I’m listening right now and all I can hear is her voice.

    Fuck that shit hits hard. Im going to be an empty nester soon. Fucking FUCK. Fuck does it hit hard. I should be proud. I am! Jesus am I. I don’t know how I was blessed with these people, bio and adopted, that’s how vlessed I am, but I don’t want to look the gift horse in the mouth. Fucking wow, am I proud. But really I’m sad, too.

    /soliloquy



  • This might be weird but at 3-4 in the morning when I get off work and can’t sleep because I gotta take the kids to school in a couple hours, I day dream about some super power I acquire that allows me, in some form or another, to end the corruption, stop the wars, force every politician into a wage slave job.

    Sometimes it’s teleportation and I scare the shit out of them enough to change their ways and fuck over their bank accounts everywhere. Sometimes it’s mind control. Sometimes it’s Jebus-like prophet bullshit.

    Ultimately, I just want them to take all the money there is out there from us or in their coffers, and create the utopia we could have, or get close to, if the leaders or the world and those that pay them, didn’t fuck it up for all us little peons.

    Then I wake up, rush around to put my house in some semblance of order before I go to work again, smile and laugh, whether I want to or not, for the legit people who struggle just as much as I do and tip me way too fucking much because they know it’ll put food in my kids’ bellies.

    Most of them love Trump which hurts every fiber of my being. They’re still good people. They care, and they’re generous and kind. They will go out of their way for anyone, and I’m not exaggerating when I say this. It’s harder to handle them when there’s a dem in office because they never stfu about it and it riles me up having to listen to them but aside from the Punch and Judy indoctrination we’ve all succumbed to we’d agree on absolutely everything as long as you don’t use certain hot button phrases when you talk about it.


  • I have to say I was having issues using reddit on my browser, it was a simple html issue where I couldn’t break paragraphs, and I went to the support sub and they fixed it within 2 days.

    I’ve had mods ban me for visiting, not commenting or posting, just viewing a post from another sub. I’m sure I got shadow banned plenty of times. I left because of the users. I disagreed that someone should Go No Contact with their dementia suffering grandpa for being racist and I felt like I was going crazy with the commenters who tore me a new one.

    I stayed for while after because fuck, I’d been on reddit since it had r/all and not much else. I blocked out the one that got me to quit for good. I don’t even want to check back in for curiosities sake because fuck them. I wasn’t wrong in the slightest.



  • I just wrote my comment on this particular issue. I had a coworker complain that I made more than them and Boss tried to shame me for it.

    Weirdly though I became the manager at my next place and had no problem sitting someone down and telling them why they weren’t making as much as their counterparts and when they’d get their scheduled raise and how they could improve and possibly get a bonus raise based purely on merit.

    Some people get salty, some people rise to the occasion. The ones that rise to the occasion are dedicated, they’re receptive to constructive criticism and eager to show you they want to improve. It’s just as much a breathe of fresh air for me to see them so happy that they actually got a raise and I wasn’t just blowing smoke up their asses as it was for them to actually get a raise.

    After two raises to two different people I had shown my owner that his money was being put to good use because we got long standing, dedicated employees that went above and beyond. He never questioned it again after that when I proposed a raise for a coworker. Good man, and a good team.


  • I’ve basically made a career out of serving and bartending. I took a 5 year break to do the stay at home mom thing but my first job getting back into it loved me at first.

    It was a very interesting dynamic because it was my first job outside the city I grew up in but it was like riding a bike and I picked it up and immediately impressed them on the first night I was only supposed to be training.

    Problem was was that they started firing my coworkers for the most questionable reasons. Then the trophy wife owner would show up to every court hearing for unemployment with forged signatures on their “policy handbook”. A lot of underhanded tactics were used. One of my very good friends was fired on his birthday.

    But everytime they’d give me a raise to placate me so I wouldn’t leave. I could write a novel about that place because that’s how my mind works but I won’t.

    Long story short, I responded to a server/bartender Facebook group at one point and mentioned my hourly for serving and for bartending. A coworker happen to see my comment and must have complained. (She couldn’t have ever earned the raises I got even if I got them on merit, but she’s a squeaky wheel and sits on a stool when her patrons need their beverages refreshed and plates cleared)

    Boss lady made the mistake of messaging me that “it was agreed that you would not talk about your pay” which wasn’t true. She’d whisper to me that I got another raise but never actually said not to say anything, and also- you don’t get to dictate what I speak about on my own personal Facebook account.

    I removed my comment just to unruffle feathers however I saved my boss’s message and linked her the exact federal/state article that forbids her from reprimanding me.

    That’s when they tried to get me for minor shit. It was absolutely transparent what they were doing but I recorded everything and kept track of dates, times, incidents, message screenshots.

    I saw the writing on the wall though and there was another place that had been wanting to poach me for a good while.

    I was planning on fighting them earnestly for unemployment and take a month or two off before I started with the new place but they got desperate when their daytime bartender left so I got matching wages if I put my two weeks in and started ASAP so I did.

    It was an absolute blessing. That next place treated me well and I was there for about 6 years until they closed their doors for good. Still miss them. I would have missed my old bosses too, if they didn’t try to do dirty the way they did because I genuinely loved them and I wish there wasn’t that bad blood. I don’t regret anything though. They brought it on themselves being so two faced and underhanded.



  • I knew a Tim that I haven’t seen in about ten years now, thank god. All I know is that if something goes wrong on the job, Tim was the one who should have dealt with it. Instead of actually dealing with it he’d make his 70 year old mother do it, he’d sexually harass and verbally abuse us in front of customers.

    So when shit goes wrong at work for me now the code word is “Tim’s a douche” it always catches on anywhere I work.

    OP I’m sorry if this is a rant and your name is Tim. I know many good Tims as well.


  • When you get into main cities, public transportation and walking becomes easier and it makes sense to tax drivers more.

    I’ve been working in the backwoods/suburbs for over 15 years now and in the US, you’re fucked. There is no way to get/keep a job without a car because there are no bike lanes, no sidewalks, and good luck trying to find a taxi/Uber. Your forced to take on the emissions testing, loans for junk cars because we can’t afford new cars. A 15 minute drive is 2 hours on foot because there are no sidewalks, you have to cut through yards, which is “trespassing” and you could get shot, especially in the backwoods areas.

    They basically make it illegal to NOT have a car. And that’s a win for them because then they can tax the fuck out of you for owning one


  • Man sketchers are awesome. I have a pair that I’ve re-bought consistently for years because they were the perfect fit, comfy, and were nondescript. Now they’ve discontinued them so I have to see if I can order them online.

    I remember when I was kid though. We always had hands-down, goodwill, and k-mart clothes. But one of my Pop’s jobs was a janitor at the “rich” school district and he’d watch the lost and found box and wait for the shit he brought in to expire.

    Once it was in the bin for more than a month it got “donated”. Half of that stuff went to the kids of the people that worked there. My brothers and I being some of them. So Pops scored me a pair of Air Nike when Jordan was at the height of his career.

    Wouldn’t you know it? One dude on the play ground had to ask why I was wearing a Walmart T-shirt while wearing Nike shoes. Seriously, kids are fucking brutal.

    I learned long before that that I was “poor” so I learned how to play it off and flipped the script. “Are you that superficial that you give a shit? It never even occurred to me to look at what you’re wearing but now that I am, all you are is a wigger” (slur for a wannabe in my era/location). He left me alone the rest of our school career.

    I’m in my forties now but somewhere in my thirties he hit me up on Facebook and apologized for being a little shit. Turns out he had a bit of a crush on me and that’s how he showed it amongst other reasons. He was newly divorced when he reconnected with me so I had to turn him down (that the only reason you’re apologizing, dude?) but he was much nicer about everything this time.

    Kids can be nasty but many of them grow up. Anytime you can stand up to adults in front of your kids it’s teaching them how to stand up to their own peers. Show them every example you can of how to handle what they’re dealing with. How you stand up to your family, friends, and peers, is how your kids learn how to do the same thing.

    You can’t buy yourself out of bullying. Even rich kids get bullied. Confidence in yourself and empathy for others are a far better lesson to teach the next generation.





  • I just adore the little white line through “butt”. It’s ironically adorable and performative. That’s like in the 80-90’s when they’d censor movies on regular TV when they’d bleep over “hole” but not actually censor “ass”.

    Makes me giggle everytime.

    Even trying to censor or substitute any word for the sake of it being problematic is just stupid in my opinion. We all know the word it is you’re trying to say anyway. The substitute is just as triggering because it is the principle, the ideal, that is triggering, not the actual word itself.

    Words have power when you give them power regardless of how vulgar, crass, or respectful you’re trying to be.

    I always think of Michael Scott and one or two of his great lines when I have occasion to think/discuss this particular point. Honestly, I won’t even quote it. There’re actually two that fit perfectly, one being a single quote and one being a dialog.

    I’d have to censor myself because I’m still not quite sure of the rules and guidelines. I’d be hypocritical by censoring it. It would also just be fun to draw out The Office (US) fans by letting them do it for me.


  • As a kid our alley in back was where all the neighborhood kids played. We all decided it was race time. Most of us were on bikes but I happened to have my roller blades on.

    Important detail is that there was a pretty steep slope from one end of the alley to the bottom before it leveled out halfway down. Of course we start at the top, everyone’s getting speed and I’m focused so I don’t get the wobbles. I’m actually ahead and it’s me a Jorge going neck and neck until I hit a rock at the bottom.

    I tucked and rolled (apparently about 5 times) before I land on my back and slide for another 15 feet.

    Maybe it was bad enough for the ER but in that day and with my family we treated it at home if it wasn’t a broken bone or head wound. So I laid belly down on the couch while my Pops picked gravel out of my back and blotted me with peroxide and anticeptic. Overall it wasn’t as bad as some of my brothers’ accidents but it looked pretty gnarly.

    I could have won dammit