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Cake day: March 14th, 2025

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  • My wife doesn’t love multi day backpacking. But she loves the glimpse of how I am and how we are - during that time.

    Our priorities - Stay warm, stay dry, fetch and purify water, hike the right distances to get out with food in hand, packing and unpacking our gear, avoid dangerous wildlife, cook, sleep.

    When every day that’s your goal state it’s super simple - stress is actually just a response to things that might kill you again. And not 20 steps away from it. “I might perform poorly, my clothes might not be appropriate for the job, I’m running 3 minutes behind - which may cost me my job, which could be long term, and financially we won’t recover, and then we might lose the house or starve”. Up against “I need water and dry clothes”.


  • Haha - I need to take a page out of your book.

    I just project as a curious intellectual with things and then also enjoy certain classical music or styles in music that capture classical sounds, but feel like my entire appeal or ability to be convincing is meeting people where they are at and then engaging the more theoretical sides from them, once they realize I’m respectful and trusting and not condescending.

    I worry that if I pull into work listening to a concerto that I will no longer have the ability for folks to trust that I really can meet them where they are. lol. And I do educate train and onboard / facilitate comprehensive learnings for larger groups in my health care role. So it’s clearly a passion to be effective with that.

    Too much anxiety about something that probably doesnt matter clearly per my down votes. Haha. Feel like there is a stigma in sort of being education providing - and condescending. And it becomes harder to dodge that as the first post indicates if say, the first impression is me listening to classical music whilst drinking an IPA haha. My ability to tease out a theoretical thought exercise conversation in a trusting environment might diminish up front (is the fear) and then I won’t effectively engage in my favorite types of discussions.





  • I love Chad Lawsons album “Breathe” but haven’t told a single soul IRL. Will listen in my car during long commutes.

    His description on irreplaceable, fields of forever and letting go really hit hard during the listen.

    So if the idea is people only want status from listening or social drivers to land the act. Then I’m an outlier. Haha. Because I’m so self conscious of the projection of “the type” that listens to it I avoid being seen or known as a listener. If stopped at a light or pulling into a lot will turn it all the way down lol