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  • I can’t be arsed to keep up with changing the config of the browser I didn’t choose every time the device updates with new admin-defined settings. That’s all.

    On my personal device I still use Google right now for consistency/because change is hard, but I set the default behavior in Firefox to exclude AI results.

    I’d just prefer to use/support a search engine that abstains from AI entirely, regardless of whether or not you can turn it off. I don’t want to be a happy customer of companies that still try to weasel that stuff in, because they won’t stop at a toggle. They never do.






  • zikzak025@lemmy.worldtoOff My Chest@lemmy.worldMy wife came out as gay last night
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    I can’t speak for OP’s wife, but she may have honestly thought she felt that way about OP before realizing over time that she didn’t. It sounds like there was at least still legitimate romantic attraction, if not sexual. Processing attraction is not made any easier by how much most societies condition the concept of heteronormativity.

    It sucks to find out that late, but the amicable separation is at least a better outcome than trying to prop up a loveless marriage for years and years out of guilt. Agreed that OP is entitled to feel upset, but I don’t think it’s entirely fair to put her in the position of the offender (however unintentionally) when she may likewise be feeling awful about everything.


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    I think you’re taking things the right way. It’s okay to feel hurt because honestly it does suck, but it is just life. Sometimes bad things happen and it’s no one’s fault.

    It sounds like it would have been easier had she been more upfront, but when someone is going through an identity crisis like that, sometimes they just don’t know. Sexuality is a fickle topic with no clear dividing lines, so sometimes it just takes people a while to figure it out/deprogram/come to terms with who they are.

    I certainly don’t think you’ve done anything wrong OP, nor does it sound like she did.

    But it’s okay to be upset, and I don’t think you should bury that feeling just for the sake of being stoic (not to say you are, just in general). Hopefully you can still rely on each other as you work through things emotionally, and remain amicable going forward.