What qualities do you covet?

  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
    4·
    6 days ago

    Bigger tits would be nice. They’re not small, but I’m a boob girl and so it’d be nice.

    I also wish I was better at selling myself and developing professional skills quickly.

    • cheese_greater@lemmy.worldOP
      2·
      6 days ago

      Its such a cruel thing that humans dont get to choose where the fat goes when we overindulge for too long. Women would be able to accentuate areas they would like to be more curvy in, men could distribute it more evenly so it would be relatively bigger overall rather than fat in any one area

                • cheese_greater@lemmy.worldOP
                  2·
                  6 days ago

                  There’s a cognitive or logical error that this describes. Something about others are judged by actions and outcomes, we judge ourselves by heavily-rationalized intention

                  Do you think its possible to try evaluating people more on their intentions and demonstrated efforts rather than whatever outcome that comes of it if it seems reasonable they are genuine in their dealings with you?

                  I feel like when people are given and palpably experience genuine grace and having their dignity upheld, they are usualy more inclined to reciprocate as well pay it forward

  • Volkditty@lemmy.worldEnglish
    6·
    7 days ago

    I wish I were more handy or had the mindset for tinkering and doing mechincal repairs. I lack the focus and spatial awareness to look at something, diagnose the problem, and effectively repair it or jury-rig a solution around it.

    • Wild Bill@midwest.social
      3·
      7 days ago

      Same. Always been a dreamer and creative person, just never practical. Although, having the spirit is the first step, right?

    • cheese_greater@lemmy.worldOP
      1·
      7 days ago

      Try learning to code a bit if its of interest to you. It will MAKE you into a tinkerer, driven by the thrill of the squashing of the bug and getting the outputs va inputs that you want and is correct

  • GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.eeEnglish
    4·
    7 days ago

    That I had all the energy needed to do things that make me happy. I have a lot of commitments that are more important but less fun than my hobbies. Every time I have to deal with those, it saps my energy for fun things.

  • dumbass@leminal.spaceEnglish
    20·
    8 days ago

    That I was as socially confident as other people seem to be, I don’t care if it’s all a facade, I want to be able to use the facade.

    • bizarroland@fedia.io
      141·
      8 days ago

      What helps me is knowing that everyone is fucking awkward.

      I’ve met thousands upon thousands of people and I have never met anyone who is not socially awkward, just a lot of people who are socially skilled in different ways.

      The people who don’t come across as awkward are the people who acknowledge their awkwardness and own it, who give themselves an opportunity to fumble with their awkwardness and to get used to it the same way you do with any other difficult thing like math or reading or studying or dance or games.

      I said all of that to say, not being awkward is not a talent, it is a skill, and you can learn it.

    • Akasazh@feddit.nl
      4·
      7 days ago

      Like with most skills, one becomes confident with practice.

      I’m a natural introvert and an only child and therefore has little practice of taking to others. I had no idea of how important small talk is. I learned by working in a bar, where social interaction can’t really be dodged and found out that social interaction isn’t that daunting as it seemed to me.

      It still not my biggest hobby yet I’m not longer afraid of social interaction like I used to be.

      • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
        2·
        7 days ago

        If it was me (which it was), I’d set a reminder and then every time I got a notification, I’d push it off until later. Also, I’d hate my(past)self for making the commitment to have to deal with the notifications.

        • Albbi@lemmy.ca
          2·
          7 days ago

          Ugh, notifications to do something are the worst! My notification to pay my credit card comes up and I’m like, just leave me alone already! I’ll do it tomorrow!

  • Flax@feddit.ukEnglish
    141·
    8 days ago

    I wish I was more Christlike.

    No matter what you believe about Christianity, you can’t deny that He is a pretty good role model.

  • Stalinwolf@lemmy.ca
    13·
    7 days ago

    I wish I were less anxious/self-conscious. It’s weird because outwardly almost no one knows that I am. I’m charismatic and easy to talk to, a natural leader in the workplace (I’ve managed now at every job I’ve held) and I’m a loving and supportive father. But deep down I’m still self-conscious as hell. I experience a lot of spotlight syndrome and I feel like I dress frumpy, walk weird, etc. I have a lot of social anxiety and think every situation/confrontation is going to be a worst-case scenario. Had to take 5 weeks off of work for a stress fracture and allowed myself to believe leading up to it that my (typically supportive) boss was going to be angry or petty or challenge me over it. He was extremely supportive and told me to just take the time off and not to worry about putting out the fires at work.

    I don’t know how I conditioned myself to be like this. Probably a side-effecting of growing up fat and all the self-hate that came with it. I got rid of the fat a lot time ago, but I don’t think that shit ever really left me. Fortunately my daughter does not share my lack of confidence. That kid is miles ahead of her peers and I’m so proud of her.