• tenchiken@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    5 months ago

    How about less “control everyone else” and more “control your own damn kids”.

    My daughter didn’t get unsupervised access until she proved responsible enough to trust. I want to say around 13.

    Just because “I grew up with it unsupervised and it ruined me” doesn’t immediately equal “everyone will have this experience”. Sorry your parents didn’t understand what you were doing. Sorry you saw stuff that bothered you. Don’t punish everyone else for it.

    I’m far from a helicopter parent… Instead, my kid has come to me for help in resolving uncomfortable or problematic interactions. We’ve always been clear and honest about why we’ve asked her to avoid certain things. Even when it made us uncomfortable. Especially then.

    She’s 20 now. Most cheerful kid I’ve ever met. No idea how that happened directly, but I know I can trust her.

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      5 months ago

      I think the part these points miss is that a lot of kids don’t have good or involved parents, and they shouldn’t have to suffer disproportionately because of it

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        5 months ago

        You are still removing others rights over a hypothetical. It doesn’t miss this, it directly focuses on the point of blame. Punish the parents for exposing their kids. Irresponsibility is not excuse for harm… If a parent leaves hardcore porn laying around for a child to find and harm occurs, don’t punish the uninvolved adult up the street.

        Another form of media doesn’t magically absolve parents from parental responsibility. Stop trying to play the “poor adults have no control over their kids!” Card.

        The “but think of the children!!!” trope is tired and over abused to remove rights and privacy. Move along.