Remember that the fediverse (lower case f, like “internet”) is about choice, and that choice is primarily about your admins. On Reddit, if you didn’t like a subreddit, you could go to another subreddit or start your own subreddit, so you had some choice of moderators. But you were locked to the Reddit admins.
On the fediverse, you should vote with that choice, in the same way you vote with your wallet or vote in actual political elections in real life.
So don’t just go to the largest and most active instance “just because”. Consider your options, find an instance that fits your interests or your location and which has admins that seem reasonable to you, with rules that seem reasonable to you. Remember that different instances are different websites altogether - what goes on one instance might be heinous on another.
That’s kind of an unwritten rule - every instance is different and has their own rules, written or unwritten. Be mindful of that when choosing your own instance and when visiting other instances.
Remember that the fediverse (lower case f, like “internet”) is about choice, and that choice is primarily about your admins. On Reddit, if you didn’t like a subreddit, you could go to another subreddit or start your own subreddit, so you had some choice of moderators. But you were locked to the Reddit admins.
On the fediverse, you should vote with that choice, in the same way you vote with your wallet or vote in actual political elections in real life.
So don’t just go to the largest and most active instance “just because”. Consider your options, find an instance that fits your interests or your location and which has admins that seem reasonable to you, with rules that seem reasonable to you. Remember that different instances are different websites altogether - what goes on one instance might be heinous on another.
That’s kind of an unwritten rule - every instance is different and has their own rules, written or unwritten. Be mindful of that when choosing your own instance and when visiting other instances.