I think you’re very pretty - especially naked.

Something I’ve learned about compliments, in general, is to be specific. Like, even outside of the nudity, just “I think you’re very pretty” is rather a poor compliment. Leaving it open-ended like that plays into what others have said in this thread, that it can be interpreted negatively.

In this case, the obvious alternative in my mind is “I really like your tattoos.” That even opens up the opportunity for a conversation about how she got them and what they mean to her. You could could also complement her hair, as you mentioned you appreciated that as well.

asked her if she’d allow me to explain my obvious fuck-up

This is a very natural reaction on your part, and comes from a good place: you’ve recognized that you’ve caused someone pain/harm, and want to help alleviate it. Unfortunately, when it comes to topics where sexuality is involved, I don’t think there’s any scenario where it helps. Not unless they come to you seeking an apology/explanation. The most helpful thing for most people, in this scenario, is to have a little contact as possible with the person who made them uncomfortable. Even if you’re being genuine about this, most people aren’t.

I tried to explain to X again that I wasn’t sexualising her in any way

I think this is especially not going to help, because it’s not an apology. A real, genuine apology for a situation like this involves you recognizing that you did, in fact, do wrong to someone (which, again, in this case, I think you do recognize), so an apology HAS to focus on that.

For me, a true apology has to consist of 3 things:

• Contrition (I.E. “I’m sorry”)
• Understanding (what you did that was wrong, and how it was wrong)
• Amends (what/how you’re going to do better in the future)

Focusing on explaining your side of the story screws up the “understanding” part. It makes it about what SHE did wrong (“you reacted without knowing the full story”) instead of what YOU did wrong (“I didn’t consider that my words would make you uncomfortable”). Alternatively, it’s “you shouldn’t be feeling this way, because you don’t know the whole story” instead of “I shouldn’t have made you feel this way”. Even though that’s not what you meant to say, that’s an entirely understandable way to interpret it.

Explaining your side of the story can still be part of this, but it comes under the “Amends” category. I.E. “I wasn’t trying to sexualize you, so I need to work on avoiding sexualizing language” or “I need to work on choosing my words more carefully, I should be able to compliment someone without it coming off as a sexual thing.”

Anyway, that’s just my 2 cents. If everything you’ve told us is accurate, I think you’re genuinely a fine person, and you just need to file this one away as a learning experience, the best you can. Nothing more to be done about it now.

What’d you have for dinner?

A) And yet, not long after, Andor was massively successful.

B) Then stop making games exclusively based off of third party IPs.

These days, mostly for reddit mirror bots.

I dunno what people’s obsession is with Lululemon, and I really don’t care, but that fucking bot alone is like 5% of lemmy/all, these days.

Add a submission fee that gets refunded as part of the bounty payout, or if the reviewer otherwise judges the submission as obviously legitimate.

Donate all fee proceeds to charity, if you want to counter the any incentive to deny submissions for financial gain.

Yup.

• Always check the Subscriptions page first
• Check Watch Later list, after that
• scroll the Home page, after that

Have never seen a link to a “Trending” page or a “Trending Now” list in any of those spots.

I’m not really sure that being open source here means much of anything, but an SO alternative definitely sounds good. Thanks for the tip.

Sounds loke she found the line for being a fall guy that she wasn’t willing to cross.

Not that anyone really believed Elon isn’t calling all the shots here.

I don’t do budgeting, per-se. For personal expenses, the idea of pre-planning everything we’re going to spend just seems like overkill. Maybe that’s just cause we’re not close enough to the poverty line for real financial hardship. But I find a reactive approach works well, rather than proactive.

I keep an accounting ledger that I update every 1-2 weeks. The ledger is just a big Excel (actually LibreOffice Calc) file that I setup with some formulas and pie charts to make it easy to see when expenses are outpacing income, and what our biggest expenses are if we need to cut down for a while (spoilers: it’s utilities and food).

I’ve tried a handful of different free accounting applications in the past, but never found one I liked for the above purposes. I ended up starting a project to make my own, like a year ago, but I haven’t gotten around to finishing it. The spreadsheet approach has been working well enough. All the custom app would do is help automate the data entry.

Bacon Cheeseburger.

I re-watched the movie a few months ago, and I had a similar realization: it was quite depressing to see a depiction of NASA that is now entirely lost to us.

Almost half of voters said they are likely to support a new political party proposed by Tesla CEO Elon Musk, according to fresh polling.

Horseshit. No way is Elon’s popularity that high, after he so effectively alienated himself from both US parties. I’m guessing the poll just asked about supporting A third party, not Elon’s third party.

Give it some time.

Dude, you obviously have never set FOOT on a farm or tractor, in your LIFE. Stop spreading misinformation.

These are raw marshmallows. Yeah, it’s unbelievable how big they are, but that’s just cause they’re fresh and haven’t dried out yet.

Why not? If they can cut costs by reducing specs that don’t matter to their target audience, that just seems like sound engineering.

Parallel Processing Unit: PPU

Me. I came here to get AWAY from reddit, why the hell would I use it anymore?

Not one single mention for Gone in Sixty Seconds?

Lemmings… do I have bad taste?