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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • You’re not getting old. The hate is real.

    I’ve put countless hours into Rainbow 6 Siege, Escape from Tarkov, League of Legends, CoD Warzone, all back when my guy friends were still interested in these games. I loved these games to death, but some of the most vile shit ever said to me were said when I played alone.

    When my friends and I moved on to other games, I wanted to play these on my own and just couldn’t. Without them, I had to mute myself or get graphic rape and death threats. I went with it for a while and thought I could tough it out, but I couldn’t. These days I just soloqueue league on a new account without a feminine name.

    But yeah, I agree it’s a breath of fresh air to play games without the hate.







  • I think these kinds of comments are harmful to the discourse because there a good deal of nuance missing.

    For one, it’s pretty reductive to call them ‘Japanese who’ve done bad things’ when who you’re talking about is dead or on their death beds. That’s not who the monument is for or about.

    Historical monuments aren’t for attributing the sins of grandparents to their grandchildren. It’s about humanzing the victims and teaching people of this generation what was allowed to happen in the past. It’s about teaching them the dangers of complacency and the complicit nature of being a bystander.

    If it’s worth anything, 4,300 people signed a petition against the removal and many protested in person.

    Yes, Japanese people as a whole are severely lacking when it comes to acknowledging the atrocities committed by their country. No, Japanese people today are not personally responsible for them. The better we are at separating acknowledgement from responsibility, the easier time we will have convincing people to remember them.




  • True. It could be far better, but one thing China did vastly improve on since the 1950s is bringing women into the workforce and providing them with a far greater degree of autonomy and access to real education than women previously experienced.

    This might not sound like much since this has happened to varying degrees in many countries, but it’s understated how socially regressive Chinese views on women historically were (and still are). Not saying things are good now, because China is still rife with gender inequality issues. Just pointing out how disgusting and ingrained Confucian views on womanhood are and how much of a stain it has left on Chinese society.






  • This greentext is probably fake, but as someone dealing with memory loss and brain fog, I feel that I need to speak up about the last line.

    It’s jarring to see people comment on how saying ‘forgot two weeks later’ makes everything a lie. ‘Forget’ and ‘permanently forget’ are two different things. With memory loss, some memories can feel like a book that randomly checks out and checks into the library.



  • I don’t think it’s as simple as coming down to choice. Planning, shopping, cooking, and cleaning takes a non-trivial amount of time and effort that not every person can afford even if they can afford ingredients. It’s not uncommon for people in the city to come home exhausted after 70 hours work week and hour long commutes.

    Sometimes it’s not physically or mentally possible to sustain the kind of min-maxing lifestyle of cooking under a tight budget. Cooking is hard, cooking affordably is even harder. Sometimes, having a steak for dinner is one of the few things that keeps people happy enough to not kill themselves in an exploitative work culture while being crushed by unaffordable housing.

    I don’t think OP is necessary overspending because it really depends on where they live, how many hours they work, what their living situation is like, how much of their own mental load they carry.

    I’ve lived on a tight budget before. For a time I made do with $30 a week in an expensive town, albeit almost a decade ago. I skimmed on everything I could and bought as many $1 bags of spoiled vegetables as I could, trimmed off all the moldy parts, and just made whatever vegetable soup I could every week. This is one of like 50 other things I had to do to get by. And it wasn’t great for my mental health. It sucked to have to spend so much time and energy when I had so few hours left in a day to do all this.

    Living cheap has a cost too. I don’t think it’s fair to assume that OP is necessary choosing to waste money when we don’t know where they live or what else is going on in their life.



  • That’s a lot of words for ‘I’m privileged with good health and can’t empathize with people going through mental and physical illnesses’.

    I don’t have AFRID, but I know people who do. Your delusional if you think it’s a choice and they can just decide to eat other things without wanting to throw up

    This is this the same as telling people with depression to ‘just be happy’ or telling people with anxiety to ‘just calm down’. There is no ‘just eat the food’ with AFRID. The whole point is that they can’t.