While I also read the email as pragmatic, I don’t read it as kind or loving. It reads like a letter written out of fear. I don’t think your daughter should have to hide who she is to be safe, but I would also want your child to be safe.
I hope you can hold at least two truths about this letter in your head. It isn’t right to expect LGBT people to hide who they are for safety. And also, a worried family member wants their family to be safe, even if they don’t know the right way for that to happen.
I really liked that game!