I’ve already mailed in my ballot, and I volunteered to be a poll worker (though they haven’t gotten in touch). With a week (maybe two) to go before we get the result, I feel caught in a limbo. It feels more important to me to be copying my important documents and organizing go-bags to be ready for a crisis than it does to do anything at work. I also recognize that that is probably a reaction to stress and anxiety and isn’t helping me. That said, I’m part of many groups that the right-wing hates and is openly threatening, so feeling unsafe doesn’t feel unreasonable either.

How are you all holding up out there? And tips for me to deal with this better?

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    You gotta get to the point where you worry about the things you can control, and let go of the things that you can’t.

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          I used to be much more into meditation and reading Buddhist literature. I reflect on that time in my life as being happier and more peaceful (I was also exercising a lot more then too). I’ve started going to a yoga class a few times a month, but I wish I had an easier time getting back into the rest of it.

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            Every moment can be done in meditation. Making time would be great but if it doesn’t happen you can still give presence into whatever moment you find yourself in.

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            But the fact that it’s not easy is a good thing. The hard thing to do is usually the right thing to do. Dealing with the negative hardship is a positive experience in the end, and avoiding the negative hardship is worse than the hardship itself.

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          Letting go of things you can’t control like death also was a big tenet of the Jedi order, which I guess isn’t that surprising considering where Lucas was pulling sources from

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              Pretty sure I’d go full Sith. I’m not super big on hate, but if I could move things and influence people with my mind I’m under no illusions that I would use that power for good.

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                I don’t know if I would trust myself with that power. I hope my worldview is correct because if I ever got it I would try to reshape the world into how I wish it could be. Probably not the best idea but honestly beating our currect system is a low bar so I’d give myself a good chance.

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      A combination of this and avoiding political news and discussion altogether (as much as I can anyway).

      What’s the point of reading, discussing and/or arguing when in the end the only thing that matters is your vote (and money/time if you’re able and so inclined).

      The news tries to rile you up, and all I really need to know is who won once the election happens, until then I’m avoiding it.

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        I have blocked every news and political centered community i see here; it helps with the stress and my mental health a lot. Particularly since I have particular views that compels me to ruffle feathers, get nasty comments and be ignored on every political community across the whole spectrum.

        It’s easier to just don’t try to post until tempers cool down, if ever. If I don’t see news then I don’t have to reply and share, and probably lowers the stress a notch

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      there are more than a million less people alive in the United States today from a mismanaged federal global pandemic response because trump was in the big chair the last time, i’m sure the hundreds of millions effected by their loss, share your same karmic acceptance, that their lives were meaningless because they couldn’t control who was making (or purposefully not making) the decisions their fates depended upon. all very zen.

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        This is what we do outside of election season as well. We, as a people, are not doing well… But at the same time, i think we’re doing the best we can considering the state of things.

        Our society is sick.

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            Someone using substances to avoid reality is, by my definition, abusing them.

            Source: child of an alcoholic.

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              I respect the struggle you went thru and your choices for yourself. As someone who dealt with alcoholism you were exposed to the worst of it. However, some of us like to enjoy life and get a buzz on without hurting anyone and I don’t think that’s abusive.

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                  The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell. Neither of these statements make it impossible for someone to regularly enjoy alcohol or cannabis without hurting people.

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            Yes, but we’re not talking about taking the edge off, we’re talking about substance abuse here…

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    Honestly, other than voting and trying to get those around me to actually give a shit, I’m not. Like in the past two elections, I’m having trouble grasping the fact that half of the (voting) country wants to elect a fascist. My mother told me over the phone that one of her neighbors is voting for Trump because “his wife is absolutely gorgeous”. Like, how do you even respond to that, especially in any calm way?

    Oh, and someone here reminded me: cannabis. Lots and lots of it.

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      If you vote for someone because you think their wife is hot I don’t think you should be allowed to vote.

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      Reminds me of some French women who voted for Macron because he married a woman 25 years older than him (formerly his highschool literature teacher).

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      Oh, and someone here reminded me: cannabis. Lots and lots of it.

      I shudder to think about how poorly I’d be handling things if I didn’t have cannabis lol

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    Until the election happens I’m going about my life as normal, because I’m not about to self destruct while she still has a chance. If she wins I’m going to celebrate that I can keep living as I am.

    In the meantime, I’m also making my exit plans in case Trump wins. I’m an openly leftist, transgender, neurodivergent, latina immigrant and performance artist. I’m going to be in the first wave of people rounded up.

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        He’s openly talked of rounding up illegal immigrants, and changing the laws about what makes immigrants legal. If he acts on even half the threats he has made, a lot of people are in danger.

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            Erm ackshually can you stop being concerned for your mortal safety? You made a minor error in your statement and I insist that you verify my counterargument is correct 🤓

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              What the hell are you talking about‽

              I just wanted to know if trump has made some more stupid statements. I had just not heard of any attacks on artists and wanted to know more.

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        While I’m not a drag performer, I don’t trust these troglodytes to be able to tell the difference between other kinds of performance art and drag. I also expect them to define any performance art created by a trans person as drag, and we’ve all seen how they treat any form of drag

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        I assume the reason they brought it up is because artists commonly publish their work and are therefore easier to find. If they decide to express themselves they then are far easier to find than others.

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    Planning my Amerexit. I don’t want to leave, we have a decent country, but if Trump wins this place is going to go to hell fast.

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      And it seems like Canada isn’t far behind us either… Though maybe there will be a backlash up there once they see what Trump is doing down here.

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        I doubt it, Trudeau really has pissed off most Canadians and their Conservative Party is also corrupt as hell. It’ll be better than here for a bit but Canadians in general feel politically stuck and that might not end well. Similar issue in Germany.

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        Not the person you asked, but I’ll give my answer: I don’t know where I’d go, but I’ve been learning French for the last few years, in part, to increase my options.

        (The other reason I picked French is that I’ve also been considering getting a sailboat and becoming nomadic, and France owns a whole bunch of tropical islands.)

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        Depends how quickly things devolve. If things get bad too quickly, I may move to China for a bit. Yes, really. I know that’s a bit ironic. But I have family there, so getting residency is trivial for me. Day to day life is chill there, just don’t piss off the party. In America, I’d be considered a political enemy if the Republicans go full fascist, so ironically it would be safer for me.

        I’d hate to lose American working opportunities, salaries, my house, my friends, and my family. But if things devolve really quick I don’t want to be here and that’s my fastest way out.

        If there’s a fair bit of time to move, Japan, Spain, Netherlands, even Germany would all be decent picks for me.

        My long term goal is honestly Japan - competent society, free and open, outstanding food, low pollution, safe for kids to be independent with good educational opportunities, few drug addicts, and high social respect.

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        Thank you for fighting, unfortunately there are millions of morons who think Trump is amazing and I don’t feel having my family get caught up in dying for this bullshit.

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      We survived one term, this one will be worse, but if we stop being idiots and let them distract us with 1000 tiny controversies then we can solve anything.

      He had nearly unlimited power last time and we did OK, though McCain helped and that corporate tax cut was brutal.

      I think America has become politically lazy, sometimes you have to take a stand for your principles, and we’ve gotten used to expecting the idiots on TV to do that for us.

      If he ‘wins’ and we put 10m people on Pennsylvania Avenue, I think we can make it clear that he serves us, not the other way around.

      But we won’t do that, we’ll expect everyone else to instead…

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        Last time there were a lot more guardrails, though. It also wasn’t entirely clear if he was going to be a fascist either.

        Honestly a reasonable person in 2016 could consider Trump to even be a moderate Republican (yes, really). Corrupt and lazy, sure, but I was expecting the American equivalent of someone like Rob Ford, not some insane idiot who is begging people in his party to literally rig the vote in his favor.

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    Bottled water and prepping the generator. I fully expect the racist fucks out here to cause real problems, regardless of outcome. We already have daily parades of giant lifted trucks covered in Trump flags doing burnouts and screaming the n-word at people. In 2020 we had some protesting high school kids get attacked and beaten by adult Trump supporters, cops looked the other way. My town has a giant painting of a Nazi on its largest building, which is a Mason hall. I hate this place.

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    People outside of US have the right to worry about this election as well imo. It’s one of many currently on-going battles of autocracy vs democracy and this election will heavily shape the battlefield.

    I wish all of the luck to my American friends and really that’s all non-americans can do so I’ll just grab a joint and catch up on the new season of What We Do In The Shadows until this blows over.

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      People outside of US have the right to worry about this election as well imo

      this is just american exceptionalism, i don’t really care, nothing would really change, just more wars, rapes and destruction from the US empire

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    Well, my folks and I will stay in that night. We’re in a heavy Trump area, and I’m more concerned about if he loses than wins. I honestly never thought we’d have to deal with Trump after his horrible presidency, so I’ve been on high alert since he was confirmed their canidate. My mom has all of us renewing our passports as well.

    I know this is dramatic, but I may actually stay home “sick” if Trump wins. To reconcile with the fact that people would vote this absolute embarrassment in again would make me so terribly disappointed in my countrymen. And this was the campaign I really put my money where my mouth is: I volunteered, donated (when I could) , even protested. It’s not so much that I like Harris, but the future that Trump and his cohorts has painted has been horrific. I would need some time to “grieve” so to speak.

    Election night, I plan to have good weed when it’s all said and done, because good God. Even if Harris makes it, this whole thing had been exhausting. And it won’t stop. If Harris makes it, we still have so much fucking work to do, and just thinking of that wears me out.

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    I figured out who to vote for and mostly lost faith in the American people. I deeply understand that the system is broken but electing a fascist is not the way to fix it unless you want it completely broken. Honestly pretty depressed about the whole thing because prospects are grim and I have little hope for the future after the past 10 years.

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    Head down just trying to do my hobbies, my job and some fun stuff like a virtual Bob Ross painting session tonight.

    There’s really nothing I can do besides voting and having others vote.

    Writing my reps just gets me form responses.

    The only country I can flee to is Ukraine since I was born there and uh…

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    As shameful as it may be, I’m reducing my stress by reminding myself that I, personally, will be fine regardless.

    But I fear for many friends, loved ones, and strangers who may not fare as well.

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      This is where I’m at. I’m part of every majority group, but I can’t feel comfortable because I know that anyone who’s not is a potential target.

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    I’ve been writing postcards and letters to voters. It’s a little too late to jump on the postcard wagon but letters can be written until 10/29. It’s super easy, you’re provided templates, instructions and addresses, you just need paper, envelopes and stamps.

    https://votefwd.org/

    I wrote a ton of both and it did wonders to distract me and give me something of purpose to do at the same time.

    I’m pretty sure text banking and phone banking is still going on too.

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    Ignoring it.

    Bought a farm a few years back in northern Europe, it’s beautiful, wife and kid moved, I’m communiting.

    If shit hits the fan I’ll be there, but some part of me has faith in my country, and even if the trash take over, I think we’ll somehow survive.

    Wife is thrilled to be out, kid is doing great. It’s basically America but better, except without Amazon.

    Besides, I survived the south, and I was a kid back then. I’ve seen their bigotry naked when they were strong and I was weak, i have no fear for them anymore. And if civil war does break out? I am an extraordinary engineer, particularly when it comes to military drones. Parry that with your crappy ar15 you filthy casual.

    It helps knowing you literally can make a difference if you absolutely have to, so I recommend picking up a useful skill if you didn’t during covid.

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      I left Canada when the politics started to mirror that of America’s. Went to Europe, and while there are a lot of problems here as well (an increasing amount to boot), I’m happier overall.

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        Around 2008, basically all the Texans who screwed up US politics saw their gravy train ending and ran north to exploit Alberta’s new oil.

        I’m sorry, but it’s like apologizing for locusts.