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Cake day: July 31st, 2023

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  • Yeah I think hate is a draining and destructive emotion.

    There’s situations where it should be used, but it should be used wisely. For example, it takes an insane amount of shady behavior to get under my skin, but when people do, they earn my hate and that makes me set very solid boundaries. But it would be bad to destroy friendships for hating someone because we got on each other’s nerves for a while.


  • No.

    You have a kid, but it’s your decision.

    Sounds like she’s trying to skip the part where she fucked up and she should apologize to you and give you some space. Instead she’s leaving you an impossible choice.

    But you can talk to your son and tell him how much it stings and that you just can’t do it. Sure you can “put all the bad blood behind” but it takes two for that and you can’t force someone to reconcile by pressuring them with their son and luring them with a paid for vacation.

    This makes me mad for you, this is so unfair. No one has to take that offer, and your son will understand. Maybe your ex will understand too, but it looks like she’s still too immature to understand right now.


  • Really hard to give advice when there’s a lot of factors involved, like:

    • how long have you been together with your kid and your second wife?
    • did she know what she was signing up to?
    • how much time are you dedicating to her vs to the kid?

    And then, jealousy is a subjective feeling. Now because you know how she feels, if you are spending basically no time with her then you might be able to carve out some more time for the both of you, but the main part of dealing with the feels is on her. Growing a better connection to you or the kid is also on her. And communication is key. Relationships are hard and complicated, that’s why you gotta talk a lot.


  • I think there’s currently over a hundred potential victims individually or collectively suing him.

    And before anyone starts searching, please take this trigger warning. It’s one of those cases that seems to have about the worst allegation making him look like a real monster.

    We’ll see how much of that will stick in trial but it’s looking really bad for him.




  • Yeah none of this is good advice generally.

    A person who just made a suicide attempt nedds routine and normality but with a lot of friendly interactions sprinkled throughout that.

    Sometimes family can even be one of the reasons a person gets so driven to go that far.

    So cutting off contact and potentially making his family put even more pressure on him is o e of the worst things you could do.

    Cutting off contact only helps if you can’t handle the situation or the person anymore, and that still doesn’t help them, it just shields you from mental stress.





  • It is by choice. Prominent developers made that choice because they thought it might eliminate a lot of the popularity incentives reddit creates.

    Now I don’t agree with that choice, but many others here do. I don’t think this solves the incentive issues but just makes instances a bit more of a wild western and requires moderators to do more work figuring out what to make of an account.

    Maybe it would be great if this is still an option you could turn on / off per instance or something.


  • Yes, this is exactly what I’ve found them to be the most useful for.

    Here’s a list:

    • ChatGPT

    Lemmy will hate me for this, but it remains the best chat it there is, especially if you subscribe to the pro version. There’s different models but essentially it’s just a good bot that will be really helpful giving you feedback on thoughts and ideas.

    A to A- tier

    • Gemini

    Google AI chat bot which seems to be well received recently. I will be an asshole an assume it’s not gonna be quite as good but it looks like they’re sticking out now.

    A- to B+ tier

    • Bing / Copilot

    Microsoft’s AI attempt. It is an AI but it’s only OK. Might get enough out of it for your purpose but it already has a long list of hiccups recorded so this is not something I would hang my head on all the time. Because it’s got bing integration, generally the AI assisted search can be helpful though.

    B tier

    • Llama on huggingface

    Basically an open source alternative to ChatGPT done well, although not quite as good. This Facebook’s work which they are graciously providing free of charge for everyone to enjoy and tinker with. Huggingface is great because you will always find live demos of all the models there so if you are not a power user, in a limited way you can use this model on the website.

    Between B and C tier

    • Llama self setup

    Llama is open source so it is possible to set it up yourself. Using the webui it is possible to do this on your own PC, removing the limitations for conversation speed and message counts. You will be struggling if your graphics card can’t entertain the model though (good models eat vram for breakfast). If you have it setup, you will always get the best experience out of the Llama models which might make this worth it.

    C tier

    Other than those there are a lot of sites offering subscriptions to what is basically a different frontend for chatgpt or other open source models, which is arguably worse than all the options mentioned. There might be some gems in the rough but I haven’t looked too far into it. This should give you an introductory overview though which is presumably more helpful to you.

    I personally use ChatGPT and I am starting to appreciate it a lot. It does still lead ahead of Llama or anything else.

    After reading your comments, it looks like what you’re looking for is an AI that remembers your conversations. Generally an AI can only “remember” a specific amount of tokens (words iirc) and it will have amnesia about the rest.

    I think the bigger Llama models will have high token cutoff as well as copilot (?) don’t quote me on that tho.

    We’re not at the point where an AI will remember details for over a year from one conversation but if you always open a new conversation for a specific topic, you will already be able to get 90% of the way to where you want.

    Good luck on your endeavors ;)




  • I think this really depends on how you quit. If you do it on an impulse, that’s gonna really roll the dice, but if you already have another job lined up and you know the financial hit can be dampened by savings or another way, you might feel a bit safer.

    I just heard that my contract can’t be renewed and it runs out in March, so I’ll have too look for something. I have enough time and I already took care of everything else so I don’t have to panic anymore, but the anxiety will be there until I secured another job I’m happy with, and I just gotta deal with that.

    My current job is not toxic but it does keep me on my toes and one of my bosses I can’t get along with; he is always suspicious of me and I can’t really deal with that. I just wanna do my job and not appeal to people lol.