Can’t catch a break

  • 0 Posts
  • 47 Comments
Joined 9 months ago
cake
Cake day: October 12th, 2023

help-circle



  • I’m a lesbian and my partner is also partially disabled. She manages her conditions but as far as we know, it’s as good as it will get. (I have chronic issues too but I am typically mobile.)

    We like to game together. We watch movies together. She also games with her friends and I go out and do other more physically demanding activities with my own friends. We like to discover new food and talk about politics.

    We found that our sense of humor and morality aligns well and we enjoy each other’s company. That and the fact that she was independent drew me to her.

    Good luck out there.




  • Get some Velcro cable ties or some twist ties or something.

    Then you should bundle up each cable and categorize them.

    • A/V cables
    • USB cables
    • Power cords
    • Extension cords
    • Specialized chargers
    • Power bricks
    • …and what ever else you might need

    Look at your specialized chargers. Do you still own the devices that those use? Discard if no.

    Look in each category. If you have a lot of any one cable type, consider paring them down. Get rid of anything damaged. I knew someone that went crazy on Mono price and had hundreds of USB micro cables. They donated all but about 50 and they are still doing ok in that department.

    Now for all of your strange cables, it’s a judgement call for you if you want to keep these or not. Does the value they give you (the possibility of needing them again and saving yourself the need to procure a new cable) outweigh the cost of keeping it (the space they take up in your living space or storage, plus the need to have to transport them when you move)? The answer to this is different for everyone. If you have a very small living area, the “cost” of keeping those cables is higher than if you have plenty of space. If you don’t care about technology, that space could have been taken up by something you do care about.

    I know it can be a big undertaking, but you got this!


  • The sound is bad enough but with properly constructed walls, it’s not a problem.

    I have other problems with shared walls. Your neighbors have cockroaches? Now you do too! Bedbugs? Yep those can come on in too. If you live in an apartment, then you bet the landlord will cheap out and not do as effective treatments. You think being clean and not keeping things in cardboard will stop them? Maybe temporarily but they’re just waiting to come back out from the walls where they weren’t treated. Joy!

    The other thing is that if your neighbor smokes cigarettes inside, then you get some bonus secondhand smoke. If you have bad reactions even with allergy medications and HEPA filters, well I guess it’s time for you to move or suffer. (You didn’t want to use your PTO on anything not sick days right?)

    Did your neighbors have a plumbing problem that they neglected? Congratulations on your new mold in your shared walls. (You wanted to call code enforcement on your landlord about this? Good luck, they won’t enforce it.)

    I’m sure there are real solutions to my above problems but my reality is that the only solution is to move when it’s too much to bear. (Haven’t lived in one place for more than 2 years because of it…)








  • No problem with quirky fonts! :)

    Image quality is fine if you download it in HD. (Many clients don’t download full quality right away.)

    However, the contrast between the font color and the background makes it very hard for me to read. The font is a bit distracting too but I could manage it with a little extra effort.


  • How fulfilled is your life without a romantic partner? Do you know what you want?

    The worst partners I had were the ones that had nothing going on. No goals, no hobbies, nothing. They expected me to be their world.

    The better relationships I had were with people that knew what they wanted from life. They didn’t need me to complete them, but I was definitely a welcome addition.

    I do not believe I am conventionally attractive, but there are people that like me. For every fella that only dates skinny blondes, there’s another that wouldn’t give them a second look. Additionally, if someone really likes you for you, you might just get more physically attractive to them even if you’re not their type. (It has happened to me!)

    As for money, yes some people will only look at you if you have a lot of money. At least they filter themselves out if you don’t have it. You don’t have to be perfect with money, but as long as you are reasonable enough with money, you should be fine.

    Some low self-esteem is workable, but if you are always ragging on yourself it gets grating. I was with this guy and he kept telling me how ugly he was. I would always reassure him. It was exhausting after a while. I think everyone needs validation every now and again, but constantly?! Ahhh!

    If you get this stuff down, at least then you will have better chances with women. (Or whatever gender you prefer.) If your only goal is to get a girlfriend, then that is not so great. If it’s only one of your goals or something you’re passively open to, then you are in a much better position. Relationship opportunities, romantic or not, seem to crop up when you’re doing something else you enjoy.