Judging by what I see on dating sites, fishing is near the bottom of the list. So many women’s profiles say something like “I don’t want to see a picture of you holding a fish”
I wonder if it is fishing itself that they don’t like, or if it is the prevalence of fishing photos on dating sites. I know that a lot of guys post fishing photos on their profiles (probably because most men don’t take many photos of themselves but will take photos with a nice catch), so maybe it just seems unoriginal or low effort. I’m honestly not sure, but my only point is that it may not be the hobby itself.
Agreed, I really don’t think it’s the fishing itself.
Half the problem on any dating site is the classic: 1. Be attractive 2. Don’t be unattractive.
If the dude is holding a fish but looks like Chris Evans, she will probably still be interested.
On top of that, dudes holding the fish will overwhelmingly tend to look like the wrap around sunglasses wearing, goatee having, overweight, Trump voting cliche. Women probably build an association to not being compatible with dudes who love fishing after enough times of seeing that and connecting these dots.
It’s like 95% of male profiles. Bad selfies and the only picture of them taken by someone else is them holding a fish.
Getting high and playing video games?
Pretty sure those made the other list for least attractive
Edit: the other chart
I‘m multiple times on both ends.
The only balance I have in my life.
If I wasn’t already partnered this list would bother me
Arguing Online: Women are just not ready for Skankhunt42
Cosplay: Yeah I bet it’s equally least attractive the other way around lmao
To be fair, I enjoy both these things but I don’t know that I would classify them as hobbies, more as something I do to wind down. I can see video games going into hobby or even profession territory but THC is just a medicine for me. A hobby is something that needs to challenge me, in which I learn things and get better at it.
I had 10/15 of these when I was single, and I was single for a very long time. That is how I had the time to learn all these hobbies/skills.
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I’m not into guys but as a woman I’m surprised blacksmithing isn’t higher. How am I supposed to be your knight in shining armor if you can’t make me some shining armor?
It’s going to be boob armor and just leather straps to attach it over a bikini.
Jokes on you I’m down to model that sort of thing for women
I’ve forged everything from aluminum to Waspaloy, from handheld to car-sized.
Unfortunately, I used an industrial press and lots of math. Not sexy. What respondents really mean is hipsters with an anvil. Then you’re wearing an apron with no shirt, sweating, and smashing something hard and repeatedly.
Where’s “beach”?
I used to work at a leather shop. I can say alot of women find that pretty attractive. Too bad I’m asexual.
I can confirm that after a thousand times of don’t it, cooking is no longer getting me any
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“traveling” yikes.
That is one way to say, you think wealth is attractive.
I have traveled quite a bit and I like it a lot, but it is no hobby. For it to be a hobby, I would have to have a lot more money.
Once or even twice a year, is hardly a hobby.
“I’M NOT DRIVING OFFICER, IM TRAVELLING!”
Gets 'em so wet
sound of breaking window
That explains why there are so many of them. It is for the WAP.
That is one way to say, you think wealth is attractive.
Is it not?
Depends.
If they flaunt it with their fancy cars and designer clothes, I think they’re gross.
If they look like a hobo but are highly educated about finances… Aaaaay bay bee how you doin? Wink at me, you economist with a 401K who ties her hair up because she hasn’t showered in days because she was doing data science. Spit in my mouth, you engineer with a diverse stock portfolio who wears the same hoodie you wore in college because clothes shopping is hard and you want to focus on optimizing your CI pipelines. Choke me, you tenured professor with a mature retirement fund who dedicated their life building physics engines to teach grad students.
It could also just be women thinking, “I’d like to visit _____ when I’m able, I want my partner to go with me.” Working in a passport office, I’ve met a shocking number of men who have never left the US (or sometimes even the state) by choice. Then their wife or girlfriend wants to go to Mexico or something, and they come in talking about how they’re only doing it for her and they’d never travel if it was up to them.
Anyway, I’d consider traveling one of my hobbies even though I can’t afford to do it often - plenty of time is spent planning and looking at things to do, so it goes beyond just the few days of the trip.
I think so too.
I’ve met people who are extremely happy living in their small town life doing small town things, then get angry or confused why anybody would want to go someplace “exotic”.
I love being in other countries and meeting new people and learning about their culture. But I fucking haaaaate traveling.
You can travel without spending a lot of money, people call it backpacking.
Time off is expensive
It’s unclear what countries this poll includes, having minimum paid leave is the law in most of the world. There’s also quite a few careers that involve forced time off.
In the US you have just enough time off to be sick a couple of times a year. (If you’re lucky)
Depends how you typically live
If you live at home or are technically homeless it doesn’t really matter. If you can save up a bit and have a charismatic personality you can go far, especially if you’re willing to pick up shitty temporary jobs in places where you go. I had a friend who would do this all the time and periodically return home to work at a reliable job while living with a friend, save up more, then fly off to somewhere for a few months.
“I love camping, I usually do it under bridges and in gutters.”
Maybe, though that lifestyle is very unconducive to relationships generally.
I think my friend would disagree. Like I said, with charisma you can go far and my friend had nothing if not charisma
For the vast majority of you, long travel is required to get to somewhere you can backpack. And the the gear and foodstuffs is expensive also. And judging by the damages to the environment that some inconsiderate people leave these days, I’m not sure that you should be allowed to. (I’m getting sick and tired of picking up garbage and hauling it out of the forest I live in).
Or be in a religious cult like Mormons. Of course they will send you to a foreign country and confiscate your passport until your 1.5-2 years are over.
I remember listening to some pop song and realizing that it was basically “You love me 'cause I’m rich”. Do you like trashing hotel rooms, going places you have never been? I don’t remember what song it was or the exact lyrics, but I just hated the guy then and there.
I have shit ton of these, man I am the sexiest man alive /s.
These all great traits, I remember to include them if I ever have to go back out into the dating world. Please I hope that never happens.
Unironically, most of the women I’ve spoken too have found it attractive when I bring up 3dPrinting. It’s an active and interesting hobby, and tangible & crafty enough not to be too “nerdy” or whatever. Perfect middle ground, women love it.
They probably just didn’t think of it or it wasn’t on the poll.
Woodworking 94%. Right.
Try ordering a new lathe after you’re married.
Hey if I were married to you I would support your hobbies and interests. I’d want you to be happy.
Lathes are expensive though, so if there expense were to come from our shared account we would need to have a discussion first.
I have a friend who’s very attracted to her husband’s woodworking. Mind you he’s a world class artisan for equipment for a shared hobby of theirs, but still, she’s very supportive of his lathe purchases.
That’s because the deal has already been sealed. They typically wanna keep you off the market, not increase your “resale” value. Unless you’re into that kinda thing. Like, cucking or sharing kinda kinks, not human trafficking. Human trafficking isn’t sexy. Unless you’re into that kind of thing. Like, as a fantasy, not as a real thing. Real human trafficking isn’t sexy. Unless you’re into that kinda thing. Like, as in humans stuck in traffic or transforming into cars and being stuck in traffic, not as being sold as a commodity. Unless you’re into that kind of thing.
Reading this as I’m waking up and really questioning if I’m actually awake or not
It kind of reads like the thought process of someone who just woke up, too.
If you are into that kind of thing
what
Wow really put something in for everyone with that comment.
What do you mean Linux is not in the list?
“I’m really looking for a guy who can self host a matrix instance”
Then when you meet her you can’t the service up. “I swear I’ve never had this happen before”
It’s there right at number one, reading. Nobody reads more wikis or man pages than a Linux enjoyer.
man touchHuman contact?
Ewww, no.
That usually counts towards having enough money for half of the hobbies listed.
They probably just didn’t ask about RTLSDR, otherwise it would be quite prominent, I’m sure.
RTLSDR feeding into Home Assistant. That’s the money shot.
Blacksmithing is 88% Was this list made by a metal shop kid?
“Oh babe, I love your soda lime mix. You’re not like those other brittle iron bitches out there”
I can not fathom how blacksmithing is LOWER on the list than reading. “The dude with the hammer looks nice, but that other one over there is sitting on a sofa for HOURS on end”
Reading demonstrates culturing, education, pursuit of knowledge, and willingness for good conversation. It’s also a hobby that can be practiced together (my wife and I have even devised a technique for how to best read books together)
Blacksmithing is one of the few hobbies that a guy probably can’t teach his girlfriend because women usually use a different technique to make up for strength differences. It’s hot for sure, but it’s hot in a “I’m going to watch you but it’s expensive in time and money, and I may wind up stuck selling at ren faires forever” way as opposed to a “even when we’re old we’ll still be discussing literature” way
I’m a woman, I can definitely learn to smith, and have done it a few times (I do reenactment, there’s basically guaranteed to be a few blacksmithsin every friend group). I definitely couldn’t do it for a living, but as an occasional hobby, sure.
And I haven’t met a guy into smithing who didn’t also like a fit partner, so hey.
It’s hot for sure,
Hehe
Maybe because reading is a sign of being intelligent/cultured in people’s mind, and people on average value that slightly more than physical fitness
Being handy is attractive. Getting a nice unique present is cool. And blacksmiths / woodworkers are the ones that do that kind of stuff.
So explain why IS 3D printing not higher on the list then?
Because downloading an stl and hitting print isn’t really craftsmanship
I’m also willing to bet that the blacksmith they are picturing looks very different from your average blacksmith.
I’ve met a TON of blacksmiths and they usually just look like normal guys but slightly more buff, often overweight. The machinery does most of the work.
To be fair my limited experience with blacksmithing has given me the distinct impression that I would have magnificent arms if I did it regularly
While there’s some outliers especially thanks to power hammers, a dedicated blacksmith looks a lot closer to a strongman competitor than mr universe.
Is there a source for this graph? Would like to read the rest of it
It’s weird that mechanical keyboard isn’t on the list
Nor gaming, nor drugs, nor watching TV/YouTube/Twitch, nor homelabbing… this is a wake-up call
How are keyboards a hobby?
What’s your hobby?
Smartphones.
NO
If you haven’t fallen down the keyboard rabbit hole then you don’t know just how far it goes…
It very much can be a hobby costing thousands of dollars and resulting in several keyboard projects.
